did I do that?
Tomorrow is a friend’s birthday, but I haven't seen her in forever. I'm thinking about calling her to see what she's doing. I already know what she's doing though, either going to the bar or the casino. We stopped hanging out because we both chose separate lifestyles, that reason doesn’t always change friendships, but in our case it did. She thinks I'm out thumping my bible, and I'm not sure about the way I feel with her decisions to date another chick.
I'm thinking, maybe if I just call her. I don't want to give up on her. Maybe she thinks I'm just going to judge her all the time? What if I can make a difference? She doesn't believe in God, I can't change her, but maybe I can make her want to change. And what if I don't call her?
If I just leave the situation alone will everything be ok? I'm sure it will..for me. So if I just forget her, give it all up, and go on with my Christian life, then what does that mean for her? Who knows if one thing I say or do could help?
We're judging each other. I feel like I'm supposed to be judging her, but if Christians keep judging like this will it really do any good? I could be the reason she hates Christians.
So I'm wondering, do Christians sometimes cause atheism?
I'm thinking, maybe if I just call her. I don't want to give up on her. Maybe she thinks I'm just going to judge her all the time? What if I can make a difference? She doesn't believe in God, I can't change her, but maybe I can make her want to change. And what if I don't call her?
If I just leave the situation alone will everything be ok? I'm sure it will..for me. So if I just forget her, give it all up, and go on with my Christian life, then what does that mean for her? Who knows if one thing I say or do could help?
We're judging each other. I feel like I'm supposed to be judging her, but if Christians keep judging like this will it really do any good? I could be the reason she hates Christians.
So I'm wondering, do Christians sometimes cause atheism?
posted by Jen @ 3:38 PM
3 Comments:
At November 13, 2006 6:26 PM,
toby said…
"Sometimes"...I'd say a lot more than they know...
Personally, and you can take my advice for what it's worth, Jen - I think if your Christianity doesn't afford you the ability to have a deep relationship with this person (obviously if she wants it), then your Christianity isn't worth the money you put in the offering plate!
So, she's with another chick...not saying I approve, but I think we can be accepting without being approving - God is. Right, he accepts us but I'm sure he doesn't approve of everything we do, think, say, etc.
What will change her is being her friend, and ultimately, who's to say she needs changing? I mean, I understand what you're saying, in the Christianesse sense, but personally I'd be more worried about how happy she is, why she makes the decisions she has, how it is that two friends can be apart for so long and have it not seem to come to surface as to why? Etc.
Just my two cents. I know it isn't worth much these days, all things considered...
At November 13, 2006 9:20 PM,
Jen said…
I've been thinking about this all night. I'm glad you were the one to comment.
I absolutly see what you mean about just being a friend. I can be there for her, but what about when she decides to light one up? Do I stand there and just be accepting?
I just don't know right now.
And your advice is worth more to me these days than you think
At November 14, 2006 5:51 AM,
toby said…
When she lights one up...call me. LOL
JUST KIDDING!!!!
When she lights one up, lighten up. Dig? Just be honest. Whatever that honesty looks like:
"Hey _________ I'm struggling with should I be doing that or not right now, so, it's been awesome seeing you, but until I know for sure, I'm gonna hit the road. When's your next day off?"
"Hey, _________ you still smokin that crap? Me, I'm not doing it anymore. What? No thanks, seriously. But, I gotta split. Let's hook up again real soon."
That's what I would do. I know I'm everyone's favorite heretic, but it just seems to me that unless she's coming from a bible-believing, fundamental background in her thinking she isn't going to understand if you give her those reasons about things, so I wouldn't. Those are the things that make non-Christians go "eh?" and think Christians are "Bible-thumping morons" and is really why they don't want to be one.
Jesus had thousands following him. To listen to him. To learn from him. To be with him, eat with him, etc.
That's a whole lot better than your closest friends dissing you because they have no clue where you're coming from because in all reality, neither do you, and they know you're being sucked into something, and they wonder why, and they don't think this is the real Jen, because the real Jen wouldn't buy into this nonesense...
See what I mean? Been there and done that.
My friends DID NOT diss me when I became a Christian, Jen. Actually, they were pretty cool with it. I used to read stuff from the Bible with them while they smoked pot. I was told that that would never help, that it was compromise, etc. But, it just felt, natural to me.
Later they told me that what I was doing, and how I was living, and what I was saying made a HUGE impact on their lives...but, the reason they ditched me was because I got all churchie (my term) on them.
I cut my hair.
I burned my rock tapes.
I stopped hanging around with them when they were doing bad things.
Etc.
And consiquently, the only time I used God in a sentence to them was when I was showing them how wrong they were - but God still loved them...
Who wants to be apart of that?
In the mean time, as my friends understood full well what was going on, I was being told "that's the price you pay for being a Christian."
The price for being a Christian is making atheists???
Dig?
And, hey, if my comments might stir the pot to much with you and yours, please feel free to delete them. I wont mind. Once you read them, delete them...they're for you anyway.
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